looking for advice from anyone who's attempted this/knows someone who has. i'll be on long island, he'll be in alabama. oh and don't be a downer and be like "UHHHM THATS LYKE RELLE STOOPID OMGGG JUST MOOVE AWN," that's not constructive. like i'm legit looking for tips. thanks :)
Okay so a lot of my uni friends have attempted this and I dont know how far the distance for you is (I mean I know of Long Island and Alabama but have no clue of distances) but I suppose it's a similar situation for any distance where you're unlikely to be able to see each other regularly.
One of my friends is at Uni with me and her bf is in Kenya... she cheated on him quite a bit... sorry I know you dont want to hear that but once she saw him again and realised why she was with him she felt terrible and is now really good. One thing they do is chat on the phone or skype every day so have a certain time they call etc.
Also, how come you're going to be so far away? If it;s because you're off to college all the new things and people will keep your mind of missing him too much straight away. Anyway good luck, lots of people I know have been able to keep their relationships up :)
Oh yeah I didnt mean every day but they do actually talk almost everyday but I agree with Val - my other friend felt totally smothered when her bf was texting all the time and would then text if she didnt reply.
thanks guys :) yeah, i know of people who have made it work - one of my good friends lives in india & her boyfriend went off to college in the states this year and they're still together. i just hope i can be as lucky, hahah. skype and everything should definitely help.
@annie: as far as why we'll be so far away, yeah, it's college.
you should try to go to college with the intentions of staying together which is a little harder than it sounds. i went out with a guy for over a year who lives in NY and i'm in tennessee and that was before the whole webcamming thing. i feel as if it shouldn't be like a constant text/call relationship, i feel as if you two should try and get through the day to get by and then whenever you're free at night or something then you'll actually have a full load to talk about and that way it'll keep it interesting ya know? cause if you text some news and when you try to tell em later it'll just be like oh i already know.... and you just don't look forward to hearing about it again cause you already know and so that way it'll keep it interesting. and now that theres skype things are easier can you just like have "webcam dates" like my brother and his girlfriend who's in houston have movie nights when they both watch the same movie while either skyping or on a phonecall so yeah basically just try and keep it alive and fun as much as you can :)
we've always texted and stuff constantlyy, and even when we were able to hang out a lot, we could text all day, see each other later, and call each other that night and never feel smothered/get bored/run out of things to talk about. i feel like trying to maintain about the same level of communication is probs what we should do, at least as much as possible. but everyone's been saying not to text or whatever all the time like we always have, so idkk.
but yeaah the skype dates are defff going to happen hahah. especially like because we won't be able to be together for our one year, so we'll have to figure that out.
i think we'll make it. it's just going to be a difficult transition.
If you have conflicting ideas about not talking/texting/calling as much-- just test out the waters. Your schedules might be all mixed up anyway and you might not have time to do all of that as much as you used to or it might work out the same as it did before. I think it just depends on the people, personally. Granted, I haven't been in a long-distance relationship but still, I think that you guys should just do things as they come... go with the flow and go with your feelings. If you feel that you want to stay together, then try. If you never try (even with calling/texting all the time) you never know what you have missed, you know? It can't hurt and you can always reverse it if necessary.... even though that's not what you want now. Ya know?
and Star, that's the cutest thing ever! Skype-movie dates! I think you should try that, Rach!
