it's what you do to me

baaaby raven · Friend

RE: it's what you do to me

heartcorekiss · Friend

baaaby raven wrote:

Ah parents are so annoying like that sometimes, buuut really, you need to talk about it (calmy) with them and tell them that once you're 18, it's YOUR life not theirs. You should tell them about what you want to major in, and what you want to do with it when you get out of school, but seeing as you say you're kinda spitfire with them, I'd try to be calm about it.
A good way to do that is to use "I feel" statements... like you say, "I feel like you won't let me live my own life because..." Usually it makes the other person feel like they aren't being attacked and they are more willing to look at your side. I don't know if you've tried any of that yet but I think you should.

Oh, and also, if you stop trying at school.. you're less likely to get into a good college ya know, soo push it through.. you only have a couple more months until you're out.

Hang in there! and good luck!

exactly

storii · BFFL

haha my parents are immigrants, do you think they'd care about how i feel? and plus the whole religion and culture thing ties into. the reason they won't let me leave the house is because they let my two brothers go to UT and now they're not thaat well, at least my parents don't think they are. so they're like "no UT for you." but i dont want to go to MTSU. they spend 23,000 a year for me at my private school so i end up in a shiithole like mtsu? it just doesn't make sense

i think the only option would be if we actually moved to the state i wanted to go to school at. so i could live with them and everything like that.

i guess you're right about the school thing. but like, my state of mind right is that going to my school to end up going to mtsu isn't worth it. if i got straight D's the rest of my highschool career i'd still be able to get in. but then again if i got straight A's, how would that even count for anything ya know? i make an effort to make straight a's and all i get in return is MTSU for college. it just doesn't scream worth to me.

none of this makes any sense.

stephh · New User

immigrant parents literally don't give a crap about the supposed "you're an 18, you're an adult, you can do what you want thing." my parents are like that. i've fought them to death on the college matter, because they wanted me to go in-state, and i was like hell no.

hopefully you can convince them about UT by the time you apply for colleges? and if it came down to it, wouldn't you rather go to vanderbilt? it's at least a legit good school.

baaaby raven · Friend

Hmm well I guess work on it, Star. Like, you could have other people talk to them about it... with like "college groups" or whatever. hahah I know that sounds lame but like when parents + kids get together with a counselor type person and talk about college.

I completely get how your state of mind is, too, but if you want any chance of going somewhere other than your parents want, then I'd stick with your A's. Maybe you could even ask if you could move to that state when it's time for you to go to college.. have you asked that yet? I know it's a bit ridiculous but if that's what it takes, then you should go for it.

:(

storii · BFFL

well i know my mom reaaally wants to move to san diego and the ideal time for that would've been like after i graduate. so i think i might just bring it upp. i could apply to like, UC san diegoo

dunno yet. i mean i'm still a sophmore so i have plenty of time to figure it out. and if push comes to shove i'll just pay for it myself.

baaaby raven · Friend

Good idea- I like this mindset better :)
I'm sure it'll all work out in the long run though.. you have a while. GOOD LUCK

storii · BFFL

thaanks chiquita :)

baaaby raven · Friend

welcome!

storii · BFFL

hmm i'm gonna start this again :)

storii · BFFL

soo, the picture you see above was sent directly to me by my boyfriend, J.T., from his airplane trip to Wyoming. geez, the second I saw it I was like 0_0 that place is gorgeous.

and he's there for another week, camping, in the mountains, without cell phone service. i know i know, it might seem soo vain but BLAH. gonna miss him =/ but it's okay, it gives me some me times I probably wouldn't have if he didn't go. he makes me happy and i'm glad :)

and plus, he's gonna come back to a lottttt of love. getting an e-mail everyday [his request] about random ****e. it's gonna be funny :)

but i should probs stop talking about him now....

uhm, haha.

well i plan on reading. a whole frickin lot. i'm driving everyday now, and slowly convincing my dad to buy me insurance so i'll be able to drive when i get my license in october. and i might just try and finish this entire book of sudoku i have. oh and i'll be baking. i just need to busy myself. any ideas?

darkblue · Date: Jun 16 3:07 PM, 2010

hop on a bus to massachusetts. and we can go to the beach. in the freezing water.

baaaby raven · Friend

Sudoku

baaaby raven · Friend

HAHA my comment above didn't post everything I wrote. I saaaid:
How much I love sudoku. Then, I suggested that you could exercise, write, drawn/paint if you're creative to busy yourself! Reading's a lovely idea. And thennnn I said that I love that picture your boyfriend took- I wanna go there.

There ya go :)

DramaQueen · Friend

woah that picture your boyfriend took looks incredible! Reminds me of skiing in the alps :)
sudoku is fun, deff passes the time .